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hello pattisue
  • Pamela
    Posts: 205
    Welcome. Lets hope we can all be of some help to you. We are all in the same boat....seeking answers to questions and sharing the load.

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    Thanks Pamela,
    I always wondered why my child would NEVER comply with anything I asked. There is very little recognition of Pathological Defense Avoidence in the US.
    I knew he was manipulating me and everyone around him, but I also suspected it was because he was scared and confused. Unfortunately, none of the teachers we encountered believed me. They all just hated him because of his seemingly intentional malice. They all thought I was the problem because I must be lettting him have his way all the time.
    What a horrible time we have had.
    The worst part is that he doesn't trust me at all. He see's me as 'the enemy.' I think he really enjoys keeping me in this role.
  • Pamela
    Posts: 205
    I am just beginning to understand Olivia's behaviours fully. Once I saw her behaviours as difficult and see some of them as a response of panic and anxiety.
    Although her school say they understand PDA I truly believe they dont. They continue to say she is a happy and compliant child while she is there....I see it as her being actively passive. She has not really progressed since 2002. What they are telling me she is doing now she was doing then! I think we all want the same thing as far as our children and that is that they are happy.

    take care,

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