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got my paper back - why am I feeling down?
  • Lixina
    Posts: 289
    I just got my term paper (Autism, Compliance and Conformity) for my social psychology class back. I got 70%. I usually get in the 70s. So why am I feeling down about my mark?
  • Could be just because there's 30% more that you theoretically could have achieved.
    Or could be because as an individual on the spectrum you feel you should know more?
    I don't know...
  • You know that is a good mark,
    I was going to suggest, like Vannah already has, that it is because you feel you could have got more?

    Do you feel that (I guess from your educated posts on here) that you have spent a long time studying autism spectrum conditions and so you feel that you "should have known more?" and got your best mark ever?

    Or is there something else troubling you?

    Let me say that from the posts I have read on here and in your blog you appear to know more than many about PDA and sharing it with us is helping so many that you will be awarded top marks from us.

    That may not help your feelings about your assessment but I am sure that you are doing so well on your course, achieving marks like that is not easy. x

    Oh another thing that has just sprung to mind....
    if "autism: compliance and conformity" is the subject and you have PDA (and maybe looked at it from that perspective) and your teachers/ lecturers do not have a good understanding of PDA or were expecting you to focus on other ASD types then maybe that is why you have not achieved what you were perhaps expecting. And once again I want to STRESS that 70% is a good score so dont take this the wrong way, please.
    Just trying to brainstorm why you may feel a bit down even though its good mark.

  • westd said:

    Or is there something else troubling you?




    westd said:


    if "autism: compliance and conformity" is the subject and you have PDA (and maybe looked at it from that perspective) and your teachers/ lecturers do not have a good understanding of PDA or were expecting you to focus on other ASD types then maybe that is why you have not achieved what you were perhaps expecting.



    These are other things I thought of that I came back to add! Great minds think alike, evidently :P
  • Lixina
    Posts: 289
    Oh, it wasn't about PDA. It was about autism in general. Most autistics don't have a specific need to avoid demands, but they don't seem to feel social pressure as acutely as neurotypicals either. As a result, they tend to be less obedient to authority figures and less likely to do something just because everyone else is doing it.

    And I think it's because I'm mad about some of the things he docked me marks for. He docked marks on 'grammar' because I used contractions, and claimed that I didn't include a thesis statement when I did. (It was at the end of the introduction, not the beginning, but still.)

    And I'm scared, because I like this teacher and don't want him being a stickler about unimportant things since that sets off my demand avoidance. I'm worried that this will wreck the good teacher-student relationship we currently have.

  • Lixina said:

    And I'm scared, because I like this teacher and don't want him being a stickler about unimportant things since that sets off my demand avoidance. I'm worried that this will wreck the good teacher-student relationship we currently have.



    :( Good luck with that. Hope he lays off the trivial things and if not, hope you can somehow find it within yourself to pretend that he has?? :?
    You should have a chat with him about it... Just to remind him that that'll be something you have an issue with. It's the sort of thing that might come out the wrong way but if you stress that you don't want to ruin what you've set up and that'll be difficult to avoid if he's pedantic about things... I mean he's only doing his job but I so see how things like that could set you right off. It's just unnecessary.
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