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Subtle PDA?
  • Hi. Fringgy Fringe here. Anyway, I'm going to cut to the chase. At 1.5 yrs had a brain injury. Cause me great strife in social cognition, impulse control and visuo-spatial skills. Never avoided small demands. Always the compliant child. Over-conscientious when I was in the primaries. Never for a second would I or anyone else suspect PDA. Fast foward to college junior year. I can no longer muster the self-discipline to do assignments. Occasionally, with massive help from a TA, I'll get an assignment done, and do well on it, but mainly what happens is I get a writing assignment, I freeze up at the computer even though I did the reading. If i do an outline, same thing. My last paper, I took my outline, placed a couple of transitional sentences between everything and called it a paper. I freeze. Then I start daydreaming intensely. About action figures. Making dolls do insane things that humans secretly fantasize about. I get nervous tics whenever I'm around my teachers. Back in high school I had the same anxieties. But I was able to compensate by trying really hard. Now that college, I realize it's way more demanding than high school.

    Simple demands. No problem.
    Complex demands. Finding a new job. Having any sort of friends or girlfriends. Forget it!
    My GP, who diagnosed AS/NLD says that my mind is constantly playing tricks on me, and I have to outsmart my own brain.
    Not so sure about AS/NLD b-cause I can make tremendous inferences in literature...that is when I actually get myself to read it.
    Then my social cognition cause me mad confusion at cocktail parties.
    And I cite my diagnosis and neuro-psych evals as concrete evidence that I can't do certain things like make friends and write papers.
    I find myself constanly mimicking my teachers, and trying to imagine how they'd punish me for bad behavior.
    I constantly refer to myself as Fringgy Fringe or LunyLune.
    I go out of my way to alienate myself from people. I purposely act weird around girls to get them away from me and their rejecting of me.
    Grasp cognitive therapy really well. Then for some odd reason, I WENT OUT OF MY WAY not to apply those strategies.
    I have persisting obsessions about diagnosis and diagnostic categories that are or could be related to me.
    None of my obsessions involve machines or numbers.
    I don't know what to do...
  • my parents are getting ready to kick me out! cause I'm too afraid of doing my homework so I just pretend that I hate them when that really isnt the case! Could anyone her give me advice on what to do?!


  • webbwebb
    Posts: 2,565

    You seem to understand an awful lot about pervasive development disorders and think that you may have PDA. Your GP thinks that you have AS. But you don't say what your parents think.
    I feel that you need to go back to your GP and ask to be referred to a specialist Psychologist who deals with all pervasive development disorders, so that you can finally pin point your difficulties more clearly. Remember that many times peoples diagnosis can have overlaps! ie ADHD +ASD or AS + Dyspraxia for example.
    I also feel that you need to have your parents on your side/helping you and the only way to achieve this would be to open up more to them. If you can't talk to them about your problems/fears why not write them a note asking for their help and try to say why you need them.
    You don't say exactly how old you are so not sure about the laws of your parents throwing you out.When angry we all say alot of things we don't necessarily mean, you need to open up to your parents and let them help you.

    I hope you will be able to seek some help.
  • So today, my parents were trying to get me to do this assignment for school, and I got really frightened about it, and i literally pissed on my parents floor and pratically scared them out of the house. I do this alot. Do you know that guy from the US tv show To Catch a Predator? The one who busts the criminals. Well, lately I've been impersonating him alot.
  • webbwebb
    Posts: 2,565

    Sorry, I haven't seen or heard of the show "to catch a predator".
    When extremely frightened or anxious we can wet ourselves as we loose control of our bodily functions.
    Was it the demands your parents were putting on you that made you wet yourself or were they shouting at you and getting aggressive?
    Have you managed to get back to your GP yet and ask for a refferal to see a psychologist?
    Your parents must realise you have some problems, can't they go with you to the GP?

    I am concerned that you should seek professional help to get to the root of what makes you so anxious and frightened.

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