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NVR course (Non Violent Resistance)
  • Kissy
    Posts: 7
    Has anyone any experience of one of these courses and are they recommended for PDA child who can be extremely violent? My concern is recognising the violence as a panic attack as loss of control causing extreme anxiety as opposed to naughtiness. However I would like to know how to defend myself, keep my child safe and help her calm down too.
  • PDA_ASD_Parent
    Posts: 4,188
    I don't think any child who is being violent is doing it due to simple naughtiness, there will always be an underlying cause, if it's not a condition that makes them behave that way it will be an environmental cause, even if it's just extreme tiredness and inability to control emotions. But you are right, anxiety is driving it in PDA. Sometimes all you can do is safely restrain the child or put them in a room and shut the door, as long as you know they can't hurt themselves in there. Does she have a den or sensory area she can go to be quiet and away from everyone else? There are some videos on YouTube of Solfeggio frequencies music, suitable for different things and labelled accordingly, healing, mood etc. which might help.
  • Kissy
    Posts: 7
    It's been recommended for someone I know with child who ADHD with ODD. Having read up on it now though it does not seem to be anything more than we do already. We don't react with violence back, we always stress it is the behaviour that is unacceptable but not the person and reinforce relations with a lot of family time and close bonds so I don't think this would help us. I hope it helps them though x

    Mine has a calming tent and sensory calming box but will resist the suggestion to use it when already at violent point. I am finding if I don't try to say anything to reason with her or put fuel on the fire and just offer support with a chance to cuddle when she is ready she de-escalates better.
  • Holly59
    Posts: 2,586

    Kissy said:

    It's been recommended for someone I know with child who ADHD with ODD. Having read up on it now though it does not seem to be anything more than we do already. We don't react with violence back, we always stress it is the behaviour that is unacceptable but not the person and reinforce relations with a lot of family time and close bonds so I don't think this would help us. I hope it helps them though x

    Mine has a calming tent and sensory calming box but will resist the suggestion to use it when already at violent point. I am finding if I don't try to say anything to reason with her or put fuel on the fire and just offer support with a chance to cuddle when she is ready she de-escalates better.



    Hi ,
    Welcome to the Forum ,

    Have you seen this information ? There is a mass of information including Webinars , Books , Training , Meltdowns , Stratagies etc .

    https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/families

    http://yvonnenewbold.com/violent-challenging-behaviour-the-basics/

    http://www.challengingbehaviour.org.uk/

    Pat xx
  • Kissy
    Posts: 7
    Thank you Pat, yes I read the Yvonne stuff last week, I have been reading the stuff on here for years I I will check the other site

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