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School incident
  • 07162017
    Posts: 52
    School rang me tonight to tell me that my son needs to go to isolation again tomorrow after the incident yesterday to which I said what incident? The staff member was surprised and I was asked if he lived with me? Apparently he was called names by another child and he responded by hitting the boy. He has not said anything to us. School are still investigating as there were witnesses. Now that we know, he says it has been going on for some time and the boy yesterday told him to overdose on his insulin and kill himself. last year the school did investigate another incident where he was bullied for being diabetic. We are concerned that we were not told until tonight, (he was at CAMHS this afternoon otherwise they may never have rung). Also school assumed we knew, he was asked to make a statement at school today and no help was given to him with this. As a child with PDA no support was given to help him through this process. My husband has rung school and asked for a meeting to discuss their process. Whilst he should not have hit another child, we are worried about his anxiety leading to the incident and him hitting out and then the school lack of support around a child with autism. Have others had similar experiences?
  • PDA_ASD_Parent
    Posts: 4,188
    What a crazy reaction from the school. They haven't informed you themselves and expect that an autistic child would have done so! Do they even understand the nature of his disability?

    I would be going up the school and demanding to know why there was ongoing bullying that nothing had been done about. They can't expect that a child who is bullied and goaded and has difficulty with emotional regulation as part of their disability is punished for this. I'm not saying they let him think hitting is OK, but they cannot punish him as a result of his disability, that's against the Equality Act 2010 and the Disability Discrimination Act 2005.

    They are handling this all wrong, very, very wrong. Sorry my two are maskers and do all the aggressive stuff only at home!
  • 07162017
    Posts: 52
    School say he has to go into isolation until the incident has been fully investigated. So far nothing has happened to the boy who provoked him, though school say he will be dealt with.
  • PDA_ASD_Parent
    Posts: 4,188
    Why should he be isolated? If a parent locked their child away all day in a room they would be investigated.

    https://specialneedsjungle.com/seclusion-rooms-every-parent-professional-know/

    For a child to learn and understand how to manage their emotions and any behaviour which might be seen as ‘challenging’ by other people they are likely to need support guidance and explanation. If a child is isolated from others whenever they exhibit a behaviour which is perceived as ‘challenging’ by others it’s unlikely they will be able to reflect on why they have been left alone, or experience any guidance relating to their behaviour, its actually more likely this is a frightening experience and for any child, for a child with a disability it would possibly be more frightening.



    http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/locking-autistic-man-in-padded-room-ruled-illegal-2298553.html
  • PDA_ASD_Parent
    Posts: 4,188
    "Bullying Often Triggers Fight Response In Kids With Disabilities" https://www.disabilityscoop.com/2016/10/11/bullying-triggers-fight-response/22872/

    “Because students with disabilities often lack age-appropriate social and communication skills, they may act out aggressively as a response to being bullied,”



    Part of the disability.

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