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Why is everything my fault?
  • Kallie79
    Posts: 27
    Whenever anything doesn't go right for my son I'm immiediately the one to blame. Can anyone relate?
    He's just went off on one cause something came on the telly which made him feel sick. So it's all my fault apparently. This happens with everything even when I've got nothing to do with it or I wasn't even there.
    So fed up with this.
    Any advice welcome.
  • RhanHRhanH
    Posts: 1,151
    Hi Kallie79, I experience exactly the same thing. I think my daughter targets me because she knows I'm her safe person and I will help her no matter what she says or does. Certainly changing my personal mindset on things has helped and I just try not to take anything she says personally anymore, although it can be very hard at times, instead I try to recognise this is her way of asking for help and then try to work out what I can do to reduce the anxiety. Hope this helps a little.
  • HannahH29
    Posts: 48
    If my son falls over, hurts himself or has an issue socially, it’s always me that the fall guy so I know what you mean. I don’t have any advice but just to say we are experiencing this. How are things going re: possible diagnosis? Were you going through CAMHS? Xx
  • ST77
    Posts: 1
    Same here. My son shouted at ( swore and threatened) me because he dropped something yesterday, ( I wasn’t in the room) but I think the therapy ( anxiety and violent behaviour counselling from cahms) might be working because he didn’t lash out and managed to verbalise “ I know it’s not your fault but I just needed it to be someone else’s fault right now or I’ll explode “ just afterwards.


  • RhanHRhanH
    Posts: 1,151
    That’s fantastic self awareness and regulation! So pleased your son is finding some strategies to help.
    Welcome to the Forum ST77!
  • Kallie79
    Posts: 27
    Thank you everyone x

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