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Helping Your Child with PDA to Play: Eight Strategies for Supporting a Child with Pathological Demand Avoidance at Home

Year Published: 2011
Authors: Josephine Carlile

This case study explores strategies for helping a young boy with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) engage in play, develop social skills, and build positive relationships. Recognising that traditional parenting techniques may not be effective for children with PDA, the study outlines eight key strategies that supported his progress:

  • The use of humour to reduce anxiety and encourage engagement.
  • Indirect praise to avoid pressure.
  • Thinking aloud to model problem-solving without direct instruction.
  • Flexibility and creativity to allow choice and autonomy.
  • Tone of voice to create a calm and inviting environment.
  • Letting things go to avoid unnecessary conflict.
  • Treating anger as communication rather than defiance.
  • Building positive relationships to foster trust and cooperation.

This paper is a valuable resource for parents and caregivers looking for practical, everyday strategies to support children with PDA at home.