PDA Society logo

Helping Your Child with PDA to Play: Eight Strategies for Supporting a Child with Pathological Demand Avoidance at Home

Year Published: 2011
Authors: Josephine Carlile

This case study explores strategies for helping a young boy with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) engage in play, develop social skills, and build positive relationships. Recognising that traditional parenting techniques may not be effective for children with PDA, the study outlines eight key strategies that supported hisย progress:

  • The use of humourย to reduce anxiety and encourage engagement.
  • Indirect praiseย to avoid pressure.
  • Thinking aloudย to model problem-solving without direct instruction.
  • Flexibility and creativityย to allow choice and autonomy.
  • Tone of voiceย to create a calm and inviting environment.
  • Letting things goย to avoid unnecessary conflict.
  • Treating anger as communicationย rather than defiance.
  • Building positive relationshipsย to foster trust and cooperation.

This paper is a valuable resource for parents and caregivers looking for practical, everyday strategies to support children with PDA atย home.