“Although I’m acting angry what I’m feeling is terror, and afterwards I don’t remember what I’ve done” – Jack
“It’s like a great big whoosh of NO!” – Ben
“When people speak to me in an authoritative way it makes me want to punch them really hard!” – Chloe
“It’s like you’re gaming and you have the main controller, and then sometimes someone yanks that controller away from you and you lose control and feel panicky,” – Mollie
“Demand avoidance makes it sound like I’m avoiding things on purpose, but I literally have no choice in it whatsoever. So I prefer to call it demand anxiety.” – Tally, Can You See Me?
“It’s like my body has 2 control centres, one is my heart and one is my brain. My heart wants to do something but my brain says no, and no matter how hard I try my brain just won’t let me do it. It’s like there’s a train, and there is a driver at each end, both drivers are pulling in a different direction so the train can’t go anywhere, it just stays still, it freezes like me” – Holly
“I feel most anxious when I’m pressed to do something I feel I can’t do, but when people around me don’t understand what I mean when I say “I can’t do that”. I know how to do things, and I can do them sometimes, but most of the time I just can’t. It starts with avoidance but if someone is insisting I’ll go straight to panic. I go from being sort of OK to crashing down a hill. It’s the most frustrating thing to have the functional capacity to understand what’s happening but the functional ability just isn’t there. It’s the worst form of self-sabotage.” – Isaac (Isaac explains how PDA impacts him in detail on his YouTube video)
“PDA is like trying to face your phobias every waking moment! For me it’s like being in a malfunctioning robot. Every button I press has an opposite reaction to my intentions.” – Riko, Riko’s blog
“Demand avoidance is everything. After a day of social interaction I might need a week of recovery. My anxiety bucket doesn’t empty naturally (or if it does it’s very, very slow). I never want to get to the point where it’s full as then my cognitive ability becomes too impaired and I can’t cope.” – Julia, Me Myself & PDA
“PDA for me is a rainbow spectrum of strengths and weaknesses; highs and lows. I am a squiggle shaped peg that fits none of society’s round holes.” – Sally, Sally Cat’s blog
“I like to describe the experience of being under a demand as similar to having claustrophobia. The anxiety keeps rising steadily until it becomes a non-negotiable, panic-driven need to flee from the source of the demand.” – Tony
“To sum up PDA the words ‘irrational’ and ‘paradoxical’ simultaneously spring to mind and jostle to the front to be picked … I sometimes wonder if ‘Pathological Procrastinating’ may be a more befitting name, or perhaps ‘ Pathologically Free-Spirited’, or even ‘ Pathological Curiosity.” – Harry, The PDA Paradox.